Sunday, 2 September 2012

The Good That Humans Do

Growing up, I've been fortunate to witness both my parents offer help and assistance to a number of people ranging from family to friends and in some cases strangers. Also, I have been fortunate enough to grow up within a stable family environment with a lot of discipline. This has taught me to be disciplined and very much aware of my actions and the greater impacts. I have learnt that my actions are more than me.

 We as humans leave a legacy wherever we go and in whatever we do. This is why I try to do good. I often do this not because I want to be thanked or praised. I actually detest praises. I am often embarrassed by it. If I were on the receiving end of a god deed, it would mean much more to me if I knew the person did not have to be good to me.

This is why it hurts when people try to take advantage of good doers. I recently had a very nasty experience with a person whom I thought was a friend. You know the type of experience where you feel violated as a human being.  Yea, that kind of nasty experience. I really thought at that moment that this was it! I was totally done with people, their problem will no longer be mine and to each his/her own.

For the first couple of days, it did hurt, true. But after this, my experience started to be a distant dull memory. I started to not think about the experience as much and then, the most amazing thing started to happen...I was grateful for all of the experience. Believe it or not, I was grateful that I went through this experience and I learnt a lot about myself as a person and what we as humans should expect as a minimum from other humans - Nothing. The best thing is to expect little from other humans because that way, you can rarely be disappointed. If they then go on to do great things, you'll be pleasantly surprised!

Finally, I have not lost my sense of humanity. I recently had the chance to assist a person to give them a better experience and I rose up to this challenge. I am happy that this one nasty experience did not subconsciously have a negative impact on my outlook in life.. When a challenge came up, I rose up to it and I overcame!

I hope someone can learn something good from this experience.

Stay bless y'all


One thing I'm most grateful for is that this experience has not changed my approach to life and my general philosophy 


Anonymous said...

If you're an Ajala, we may be related and i would be interested in getting in touch as I administer a Heritage (genealogy) website for all the Ajalas outside of Nigeria. The UK branch meets regularly and we have a huge reunion party once a year where about 3 generations collide in harmony.

Please respond if you think you might be related, let me know who your parents and grand parents are if known and whether the name is from the paternal or maternal side of your family etc. Search for Bakare Ajala Family website on and request membership.

The link to the real 'Ajala travels' book - An African abroad' on Amazon is below. Enjoy!

Rufai Abiodun Ajala

Tolantino said...

Rufai Abiodun Ajala,

Sorry, I am not of the "Ajala" Heritage. The "Ajala" in my blog title chronicles my travels and experiences around the world. Sorry I've not been able to help out.